Who should make decisions - parents or the child?

So your child is well (or not so good) musical ability. Who in this case, a decision should music education - parents or the child? Many of you will say: "You ask? Adults should always decide on the child's extracurricular activities: he does not know or understand yet."

In fact, there are three different scenarios.

The child shows interest in music. This interest should be supported by the smallest of musical skills, isobvious to parents, close relatives and friends. The decision followed naturally, and now is reciprocal - the child was born to play music.

The child learns to play a musical instrument or sing, and tell their parents. Sometimes just to say again, with pleasure! And sometimes the parents will continue to listen persistent "music" asks the son or daughter. Some parents feel their children and to approve the choice of the child. As a result of thisChildren are happy that they got what they wanted, and going to music lessons with joy.

The parents see the reaction of interest of their children and positive music. to show all children with different genetic capacity of interest in music to some extent. It 'easy to prove if you played on the radio, CD, etc. Only in response to the melody only, which in turn depends on the age-specific characteristics of your children and the character of the piece of music or a song.

Conversely, some parents see their childInterest in music and listen to their desire to learn to sing or play an instrument, but they ignore or impose their views on their son or daughter.

But because sometimes parents do not agree with the child? Why do not you want to come, the child listens to his opinion? He is entitled to it! There are several reasons, and here are the most common:

Before parents are absolutely unable to music education, because he never took music lessonsthemselves.

According to parents to take music lessons in childhood, but out of their will. These people have unpleasant memories - not about music in general, but music lessons, and do not want their children to be subjected to similar sentiments.

Many parents doubt that the third child is his study of music for a long time and expenses for the music rather costly and immediate.

Parents who think the fourth or can not afford or can not really afford.

FifthParents do not understand the benefits of music education and try to see some more talent in him, for example, dance, art, sports, etc.

In the articles I write often about the reasons parents do not want to take their children to music school, and the above list is much longer, until the end. Talking to people, I noticed that some of them speak honestly, but there have been cases where adults covered their uncertainties and insecurities, fears of liability andtheir laziness with phrases like: "Why does my child need this?" or "not interested".